If you are an adult child of an alcoholic, addict or a dysfunctional parent, it is understandable if parenting scares you to death. Growing up in a chaotic and unpredictable environment would make most of us feel unsure and frightened. And these feelings don’t go away just because we grow up. Becoming a mother can even magnify those fears. You may wonder, “I don’t know what normal looks like. How do I show my love for my children? How can I raise a child when I don’t know the answers?”
Few mothers delve into parenting knowing exactly what to do. Much of our mothering, especially in the early years, comes from instinct. Don’t underestimate it. The rest comes by way of learning from others and old-fashioned trial and error. But most important is our reliance upon God who promises to give us wisdom and guidance.
Despite your unsure or fearful feelings, you can do this job well–not perfectly, because that’s impossible–but well.
What things do you wish you knew before becoming a mother? Chime in. Just think, your experience and wisdom could help another mother (or mother-to-be). Here are a few things that would have helped me:
I wish I had known that. . .
1. I would be tempted to worry about many things but most of what mothers worry about never happen.
2. Children are more capable than I realized. Give them room to take safe risks and let them learn from their stumbles.
3. My child is not me. He will not have exactly the same needs as I do.