Archive | February 2012

What Is A Mother’s Reward?

The ball rolls down the tube and hits the toy truck. The toy truck smashes into a wooden plank and tips another toy truck down a homemade runway. If everything works right, the second truck rolls down fast, hits a block of wood with a needle taped to the front and the needle pokes a red balloon. When the balloon pops, the experiment is a success. It all happens in about 30 seconds.

My daughter is studying physics and her team created this project. While I don’t understand a lick of it, it’s interesting to observe how cause and effect works.

Do you ever wish that the reward for your efforts would come rolling down upon you as quickly as that toy car in the experiment? Or, maybe you don’t ask for that much, just a pat on the back every once in a while.  Sometimes, it does seem as if no one notices what you do.

Paul’s comment to Timothy in 2Timothy 1:5 reminds me of one mother’s (and grandmother’s) reward. Paul was telling Timothy how much he had missed him. And he commended Timothy for his good character: “I have been reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also . . .” Timothy had become a dear son to Paul and Paul loved and admired Timothy because of his character. Imagine how proud you would feel if you had been Timothy’s mother Eunice or his grandmother Lois.

Where did Timothy’s good character come from? Did it come over night? Eunice and Lois surely invested hours of teaching and modeling for Timothy.

We’re no different as modern-day mothers. We teach, we model, we love. From the moment our little ones are born, we pour into them.

Everything you do for your child matters, dear one. You are molding your children into the person God has pre-destined them to be. You won’t always get a thank you or a hug but the blessings will come and that’s a promise from God. The gap between what you are doing today and the fruit that will reveal itself in the future is called Faith. God will abundantly reward your work in the gap in a  far greater way than you can imagine.

Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. Hebrews 10:23

Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. Hebrews 11:1

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Imperfection, the New Beautiful

Nubby raw silk, unevenly woven linen, mahogany tables marred with decades of nicks and scratches: it’s the nubs, kinks and dents—the imperfections—that make ordinary things interesting and authentic.

Authentic? To be authentic means to reveal who we really are—the real us with all of our flaws and imperfections. Authentic:  an uncomfortable word for some adult children of addicts who work hard to cover the shame of growing up in an addicted or dysfunctional home.   However, it is through the total of our experiences, good and bad, that God can mold us into something beautiful. If you give your life to him, he can take all of the snags and tangles and weave them into the beautiful tapestry he pre-designed for you.  God takes all our imperfections, all of our experiences and shapes them into something beautiful.

Read Romans 8:28

Other Resources: The Grand Weaver by Ravi Zacharias

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It’s Understandable

If you are an adult child of an alcoholic, addict or a dysfunctional parent, it is understandable if parenting scares you to death. Growing up in a chaotic and unpredictable environment would make most of us feel unsure and frightened. And these feelings don’t go away just because we grow up. Becoming a mother can even magnify those fears. You may wonder, “I don’t know what normal looks like. How do I show my love for my children? How can I raise a child when I don’t know the answers?”

Few mothers delve into parenting knowing exactly what to do. Much of our mothering, especially in the early years, comes from instinct. Don’t underestimate it. The rest comes by way of learning from others and old-fashioned trial and error. But most important is our reliance upon God who promises to give us wisdom and guidance.

Despite your unsure or fearful feelings, you can do this job well–not perfectly, because that’s impossible–but well.

Take advantage of the help that is available through organizations such as MOPS International and Moms In Prayer (formerly Moms In Touch).

God’s promises:

Isaiah 54:13

James 1:5

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You, A Work of Art

Portrait of the artis's mother

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Do you remember the song by Stevie Wonder with the lyrics that go, “Isn’t she lovely? Isn’t she wonderful?” In my early years as a mother, there were days when I didn’t feel wonderful and I definitely didn’t feel lovely.  I felt lost and ill equipped to be a mother. On days like that when I could find a babysitter, I’d visit the Huntington Museum in nearby Pasadena, California.

One section of the museum show cased paintings by the Masters. The paintings were so beautiful: rich reds, deep greens and textures painted so vividly that it seemed if I touched them, I could actually feel the fibers. Sometimes the beauty of these works would bring me to tears. How could any mere human create such works of beauty? These paintings helped to brighten my spirits.

This morning I was reading in Ephesians 2:10 that we are God’s workmanship. It hit me that if artists, who are mere humans, can create such awesome works of beauty, how much more beautifully has God created us.

You are a mother designed with rich color and dimension by the paint strokes of the Master Artist who doesn’t make mistakes. You are a precious work of art. God made you that way. And he ordained your role as a mother. Believe this, even on days when you don’t feel beautiful or valued. You are a treasure shining in God’s treasure chest. You are important to him. You are of supreme value and beauty to your children, even when no one says so.

Living Backwards

If you could live your life backwards, you wouldn’t worry because you’d already know what was going to happen. You’d know that throughout your entire life, God worked out everything that you worried about regarding you and your children. So rest assured my dear one. Your life really is in his hands.

Scripture: He will have no fear of bad news; his heart is steadfast, trusting in the Lord. Psalm 112:7

Prayer: Lord, I know that when I keep my mind on you and remember your promise to care for me and my children, my heart is at rest. Please help me today to keep my mind stayed on you.